Happily Ever After…is it? Part 1

Setting the stage

“…And they lived happily ever after!!” We have been hearing this ever since…. no one exactly knows. Every girl on this plant wishes for a fairy tale wedding and wants her prince charming to come on a white horse and sweep her off her feet with his looks, love and care. Maximum Bollywood or Hollywood movies portray this picture; the girls are eagerly waiting for their prince charming to come and marry them; writers across globe find this to be a lucrative subject to in cash upon. The female leads of Television serials have this sole purpose in their life- to find that one person who loves them unconditionally no matter what and end up marrying with no tension and adversities in life; and they are even able to find one. Lucky souls indeed! And our poor janta aka mango people aka common people falls in this trap as woven by our movies and serials. Hey have set the expectations high for any girl or guy or may be parents. The makers of such movies and serials don’t even know what they have done to the mango people who are watching their creations. If you see the business model of the Wedding Planners in India or abroad, they are set. They are totally set without any loss. It’s a high profit making business. Today, every Indian girl wants a pre-wedding photoshoot, a grand haldi, mehendi and sangeet ceremony. Every girl wants to don either Manish Malhotra or Sabyasachi lehenga which almost equals the ¼ (or may be more) of total wedding budget; which again, girls hardly wear for 3-4 hours and that lehenga never sees the day of light post wedding.

Coming back to the eternal question- is living happily ever after a reality or just an illusion? Why our movies and novels don’t dare to look and talk about post wedding scenario? Because they know, loving someone and chasing them/their families to get married is easy but living in a marriage and taking all the efforts to cope up with post wedding situations is the REAL TASK for both guy and the girl and if it’s a wedding with a twist like- inter caste, inter culture or the boss of all- inter-religion wedding, then toh it’s gone!! God bless the poor souls and their families.

Since my wedding is over and I’m a married girl now, one would wonder, why all these ranting and cribbing about wedding now? Is it natural or is it the side effects of 4.5 months old wedding? Could be or could not be! While I was watching a short movie on YouTube, I was compelled to think about my pre and post-wedding life. We all think that initial few months of wedding and job are “honeymoon” period! Is it really? No… not in my case at least. Let me tell you, we haven’t stepped out of this city together anywhere till this date. Our movie dates, coffee shop dates, lunch-dinner dates have reduced. We are one of those men-women who are financially challenged at the moment. No, I’m not cribbing or sad about this fact; because I know we both are trying hard and hard to make ends meet and I’ve no regrets or complaint about it. bigmarriagerefurbquotes19So, how does it look like to be a married girl or how are you supposed to feel when you have to live with a guy and handle him with all his loving annoying habits! How does it feel to manage finances and give up/compromise on certain things?
There’s lot more which I can write here, but let’s not get into them and straight away get to the point. Let’s face it- I AM MARRIED NOW and every wedding comes up with lot of new things. It’s a multifold dimension of life which keeps throwing surprises.

So, let’s get into my journey of “Happily Ever After”! Lot more to come… 🙂

Musings of a Bride-to-be: Part I

​Exactly three weeks from now, I’ll be at his house, we’ll be lawfully wedded couple. It gives me goosebumps to even think about it. Just three weeks left for our wedding. Can’t believe time passed too fast. 

Wedding, feels so weird at times when I think about it for myself. I can’t imagine myself being married. There is excitement, crazy feelings, and enthusiasm for all preparations, dresses, functions, meeting relatives and friends, wedding card, inviting people but there is something which fills me with nervousness. I keep watching Bengali weddings on YouTube to understand how they are and when I realize that I’ll also have to go through those rituals, I feel nervous and weird. Inter-culture marriages may sounds exciting and new but when you are actually into it you realize that how difficult it is. Language, food, culture… you name it and everything is so different. 

I don’t know how I’m gonna handle all these. Only thing I need is Pochu to be by my side; things may seem lil easy I feel.

The Countdown has begun…

​Tick-tock-tick-tock… this is what is happening inside me! I’m just 3.5 months away from my wedding and have no clue as what should I be doing, what preparations for my clothes, accessories and looks should be done! I need a magic wand…!!!!

The big task i.e. the booking of venue is being done by my parents! Now that’s a relief… major concerns are- Caterer, my dresses, photographer, mehendi, parlour! Responsibility of Caterer will be taken care by my parents.. so that’s not a big issue. But rest of them… I’m in a no mood to experiment! Though I’m not a “wedding-is-my-only-dream” or “i-want-a-fairy-style-wedding” girl… but ever since I attended my Maternal Uncle’s wedding way back in 2001, I had thought of how I can make the wedding (of my next Uncle/Cousins) totally personalized and amazing. So my thought process always revolved around- AWESOME MUSIC for every function- mehendi, sangeet, wedding, vidaayi, reception etc; MEHENDI, PHOTOGRAPHY! Since I couldn’t get to do any one of such things in any of the weddings, so I’m gonna do all these in my wedding! I really-really wanna get clicked in best possible ways (I’ve been following and saving links of wedding photographers and their work and love their candid photography), want best mehendi and get the wedding environment go live and crazy through my awesome wedding playlist. Now is that too much to ask for 😉

At the moment I’ve concerned about-

Dresses & Accessories– Most importantly my Lehenga L since I’m in Bangalore and I have no idea about Bangalore market; I’m really getting heart aches as where to go for shopping. Had I been in my home town or Delhi, I wouldn’t have bothered much. If I don’t get anything here, I gotta travel back to home; which requires leaves and time… which again I don’t have in hand right now L I don’t want too expensive and heavy lehenga as that won’t be seeing the light of the day after wedding which is a usual destiny of all wedding lehengas! So I want something which is easy on my pocket and looks good too! Should I search in Bangalore first and if I don’t get anything I should make a visit to home?

Accessories are not much of concern because this can be done in one-two days!! And I know where to get what… So that’s sorted 😃

Make-Up: Now this again is an area of concern as during your wedding not just the attire but your make-up also plays vital role. I don’t wanna go for trial and error method. I really need to find and book ASAP a parlour and get the trial make-up done. I need to visit my home city… but when…!!!!! 😞

Any tips and ideas for shopping in Bangalore for lehengas and sarees, photoshoot ideas are most welcomed…🤗