a lazy sunday…

It’s been a while since i had spent a lazy, cozy sunday with my sister. I was at home this sunday and didn’t go out anywhere like usual, neither with my girl friends nor with Pochu. My SIL had visited me last friday and she left this morning. This weekend was completely a girly-girly stuff. We had fun, I tried my hands on cooking and made some new stuffs which fortunately turned out good, watched some wedding videos on youtube and tried getting some ideas for my wedding 😉

Talking about cooking, I made cooker cake on friday and it was good, now this is based on my sister and SIL’s feedback which made me to believe 😉

I made masala dosa and egg dosa for breakfast 🙂 This was my second attempt which really turned out to be good. At least I was happy with its uniform round size and taste and so were my Sister and SIL. It was difficult to make the dosa at first but gradually with every dosa I improved 🙂 🙂

Here’s a look of my dosa and cake:

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It was almost 9 years back during my graduation days when I had tried making dosa but failed miserably. While spreading the first scoop of batter I knew it’s not gonna work and it didn’t and later I never attempted to do that again. But this time I was determined and it worked out thus saving my life and image in front of my SIL 😉

This sunday is also good because after so long I’ve logged in to wordpress from my lappy; otherwise I used to write on my lappy and transfer it to my phone and then post it via the wordpress app. So when I tried logging in I didn’t even know the password, but thankfully system did and I successfully landed in my place.Thank you Technology 🙂 It felt new, seeing my posts, the menu, reader, settings… aaaaah!! what a satisfying feeling 🙂

As I’m lazying around in bed and writing this, my sister is preparing something in kitchen. A quick snack as we didn’t have our lunch. So I think I should better get up and see what’s happening…

So…how has your sunday been? Do let me know 🙂

F: Finding the equilibrium

Life is beautiful. It’s not that complicated as we think or as we make it. Rules of life are simple. It’s only we who complicate it. It feels so good when you talk to people without any ill intention or without having any grudges at back of your mind. It is easy to be yourself and talk freely. It gives you a sense of satisfaction, happiness. You are at peace with yourself. There are several relationships in our lives which we think are complicated and cannot be handled with ease. One of them is our relationship with our “in-laws”.  We, as girls, are really scared even to think of this relationship. But it exist and cannot be shunned. So no matter what, we have to face it.

I was apprehensive at first as how Pochu’s family gonna react to our relationship and how they gonna accept me, who doesn’t even belong to their community. But I found them very receptive and assertive. Though there is communication gap between me and my MIL but we somehow manage it. It’s her birthday today and I called her. I could sense happiness in her voice. I love it when at the end of every call she showers me with lot of blessings and not just me now even for my sister who lives with me.  I still have to work out for these new relationships with have come my way.

It feels good when you talk without any inhibitions, without any worries. With every passing day, I’m reminded of days left in my hand for wedding. There is apprehension, there is dilemma, there are insecurities, there are a lot of work to do not just for wedding but also to keep it going. It’s all about finding the right equilibrium in your life and maintaining the same with never ending enthusiasm and strength. There will be household work, my professional life, my husband, new family members and friends, my family and friends, burden of starting family, managing at both ends- personal and professional but amongst all these I gotta manage everything. It sounds hectic and undoable but what is life without challenges.☺

E- Evening of destruction

By this time I believe everyone is well aware of what has happened in Chennai and Bangalore in past couple of days. People of two Indian States have been fighting for Cauvery river water; cursing and verbalizing shitty things about each other; vandalism and destruction has prevailed; economy has experienced loss worth thousands of crores; some unfortunate souls even lost their lives… and that too just for water! I’m not here to preach anyone; neither to justify anyone’s deeds but only to express my experience and disappointment. My only question- was it worth it? Was it justified to-

  • Adopt vandalistic approach to resolve the issue
  • Set ablaze vehicles
  • Beat people of either states for no sin of their’s
  • Destruct shops, create havoc
  • Disturb cities and stop transportation between two states
  • Speak and spread negativity

It doesn’t matter who initiated this destruction; at this point all that matters is- it disturbed two states, doing all these didn’t solve the issue. I was exasperated by seeing how people were attempting to burn the trucks, buses, vehicles and shops; how they united to turn an Innova car upside down and later put that on fire; how hundreds of buses were set on fire; people were found throwing stones on shops and breaking glasses; damaging everything what came their way… and yet no sign of repentance or remorse on their faces. They were united to destruct; they were united for vandalism… the only thing which came to my mind was- why can’t they get united for a good cause. You won’t find such unity when it comes to save lives during road rages, accidents, rape cases.. why.. why are we like this? Why do we get pleasure in destruction, vandalism? It was indeed very disturbing to see such criminal acts. There was no one to stop them.. They did whatever they wanted. Section 144 and Curfew was imposed in Bangalore. Most of the offices, schools and colleges were shut yesterday. I was disheartened to learn about the extent of destruction happened in past two-three days and was thinking as who is going to pay for all these? Who’s going to compensate for damage occurred to public properties. Who’s going to punish this mob? Is there any law and order? Why can’t we come up with some really very strict action plan for such activities?

Thankfully, situation and life has gained normalcy and we are back to routine but still the fear exists and we are expecting something similar in near future as Supreme Court will give another verdict tomorrow. Fingers crossed!!!! May god bless people with some brain!

D- Doing it again

Why writing comes in your mind only when you are contemplating or sulking? It happens with me. I tend towards writing during such phases where I don’t find any other medium to express myself. Writing comes automatically to me in such cases.

Yesterday while checking stalking people’s profiles and lives on Facebook, I came across with lot of news updates about their wives, husbands, babies, Teej festival, Ganesh Chaturthi Pooja. Some of my Post Graduation friends had sent their Teej pictures of the pooja, mehendi and their husbands and families. Some were celebrating their first Teej and for some it was 2nd-3rd event. Those pictures compelled me to rewind life almost 5 years back and see what had happened with all of us. How we were just like any other girl, ferrying between college to hostel, to coffee shops, canteen, library; had our share of hardships, break ups and finally settling down in an arranged marriage setup, having kids and celebrating these festivals and not to forget posting all updates on Facebook. Today if you check anyone’s profile on Facebook, you can have a fair idea of years gone by and various events/occasions of their lives.

At my age, I can see almost all my girl-friends married and blessed with at least a kid and even guys have started getting married. No…I’m not that old… I’m just 28 and still fall into that so called marriageable age… but what I intend here by stating that is I learn… I learn by seeing my married friends and to some extent I’m glad that I got to live my life my way. I agree, husbands are important too, their love, care, sharing etc etc etc…. everything is cool and acceptable. But, to some extent, all of us need to have that ME TIME. I’m happy that I and Pochu are on same page in some aspects and thoughts. We both have spent considerable time alone, love our “ME TIME” and understand that we need to give each other space and allow to spend some time with self which is also very important.

Life and time seems to be running when I see my friends getting married and having kids. 5 years seems to be a long time which had approx. 1825 days, 109500 hours, 6570000 minutes. Are these just numbers or do they hold some importance? Looking at numbers, it’s been 7 months of my relationship with Pochu, things went really fast with him; next month it will be a year of my surgery; in two months I will complete one year of my work with my present company. Life… it is fast paced, running, time waits for no one. Things change, people come and go but time waits for no one. It has replacement for everything and almost everyone. Though few are irreplaceable but time heals the wounds. This is what I have learnt so far in my 28 years of life. Things seem difficult first but they ultimately fall in place. So I would say with my experience that let’s not lose hope and look forward to what’s in store for us in future.

PS- Had volunteered to participate in Pepper’s Blog Marathon but somehow couldn’t make it. Had taken it up last year  and the lazy me couldn’t even complete 5 posts.. but here I am with positive intention of completing it at least by this year end… seems to be a real blog marathon 😉😉 wish me luck.. 😃

The Countdown has begun…

​Tick-tock-tick-tock… this is what is happening inside me! I’m just 3.5 months away from my wedding and have no clue as what should I be doing, what preparations for my clothes, accessories and looks should be done! I need a magic wand…!!!!

The big task i.e. the booking of venue is being done by my parents! Now that’s a relief… major concerns are- Caterer, my dresses, photographer, mehendi, parlour! Responsibility of Caterer will be taken care by my parents.. so that’s not a big issue. But rest of them… I’m in a no mood to experiment! Though I’m not a “wedding-is-my-only-dream” or “i-want-a-fairy-style-wedding” girl… but ever since I attended my Maternal Uncle’s wedding way back in 2001, I had thought of how I can make the wedding (of my next Uncle/Cousins) totally personalized and amazing. So my thought process always revolved around- AWESOME MUSIC for every function- mehendi, sangeet, wedding, vidaayi, reception etc; MEHENDI, PHOTOGRAPHY! Since I couldn’t get to do any one of such things in any of the weddings, so I’m gonna do all these in my wedding! I really-really wanna get clicked in best possible ways (I’ve been following and saving links of wedding photographers and their work and love their candid photography), want best mehendi and get the wedding environment go live and crazy through my awesome wedding playlist. Now is that too much to ask for 😉

At the moment I’ve concerned about-

Dresses & Accessories– Most importantly my Lehenga L since I’m in Bangalore and I have no idea about Bangalore market; I’m really getting heart aches as where to go for shopping. Had I been in my home town or Delhi, I wouldn’t have bothered much. If I don’t get anything here, I gotta travel back to home; which requires leaves and time… which again I don’t have in hand right now L I don’t want too expensive and heavy lehenga as that won’t be seeing the light of the day after wedding which is a usual destiny of all wedding lehengas! So I want something which is easy on my pocket and looks good too! Should I search in Bangalore first and if I don’t get anything I should make a visit to home?

Accessories are not much of concern because this can be done in one-two days!! And I know where to get what… So that’s sorted 😃

Make-Up: Now this again is an area of concern as during your wedding not just the attire but your make-up also plays vital role. I don’t wanna go for trial and error method. I really need to find and book ASAP a parlour and get the trial make-up done. I need to visit my home city… but when…!!!!! 😞

Any tips and ideas for shopping in Bangalore for lehengas and sarees, photoshoot ideas are most welcomed…🤗